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[quote=Anonymous]Haven't read this entire thread, but: My brother dated and married a woman whose ex had their kids. I do not know what the actual custody arrangement was on paper--it could have been anything at all, even 50/50, or dad with full custody and mom none, but allowed visits anyway....The ex-DH and the kids lived across the country from my SIL. The kids visited her like clockwork in summers for about a month, certain holidays (like two weeks at Christmas or a week at Thanksgiving, I think it was on a rotation with the ex-DH, maybe). She flew out there for the big events like graduations, certain milestone birthdays, etc. etc. She was not a person to abandon her kids, I think, and I got the impression that she and the ex wanted the kids to stay living in the area where they'd lived as a family, which was close to relatives of the DH and had incredible private schools the kids were in already. My SIL's job took her to her location across the country as she was working to advance in management in her company. I know she loved her kids and stayed in close touch with them.

So you never know specific circumstances, when you only hear "well, parent X has the kids and parent Y lives 3,000 miles away and only sees them a couple of times a year." It does not necessarily mean the non-custodial parent  or parent who lives far away is a huge red flag in EVERY single case. And I know DCUM would go ballistic on my SIL for living across the country from her kids or "choosing her career over her kids," but I wouldn't. If they'd been small children, it would have seemed stranger, but they were older at the time SIL came into our family. (If this all sounds stilted it's because my SIL died years ago, so I never got to know her kids well or spend much time with her and them together. Sadly.) [/quote]

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