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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] What I don't understand is that most of us grew up with two parents or maybe even one that provided for us and helped us become adults. Why do people these days think they can't hack it when their parents did? Did they come from a household of extended family or something and now they don't have it? What has changed[/quote]

I think a lot has changed but I’ll cite two things. 1) my mom worked very very part time and my family had a normal middle class life in Los Angeles on my dads academic salary. We were a little unique in that we did not have family around to help

2) lower expectations/demands on child rearing and household management. Camp was ymca or similar all summer. We didn’t have tutors or therapists. My mom didn’t do orange theory or plan international travel or renovate every 10 years. It didn’t take 45 minutes to drive 5 miles.[/quote]

You can still do this. Parents who stay home often become the tutor. People get a dog and walk it and they run with friends and do youtube videos all over my neighborhood for exercise. You don't need to renovate or travel internationally. In fact with the internet there is less need of this stuff. Schools are less rigorous. Many people just do swim club and babysit or help out working parents in the summer to gain skills. Just lower your expectations on expenses. Other than computers and cell phones which are probably must haves in this generation, there aren't additional expenses.

You go out to more rural counties and there are plenty of people talking about the sixth kid they just have. They laugh at Orangetheory and stuff like that.[/quote]

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