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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It comes down to a matter of personal integrity. Ultimately it is a question of character.  If you are they type to cheat or 'date' married people- you are also the type that lies, betrays, puts their own selfish needs before others, have little empathy and cause harm to people who you "love". The qualities of cheaters and those in affairs don't add up to being a 'good' person. There are always mental issues at play.[/quote]

Americans place cheating on a spouse dead last on a list of acceptable behaviors, behind abortion, cohabitation, pornography, out-of-wedlock births and divorce, among others. A puny 6 percent say adultery is acceptable, according to a Gallup poll.  American social taboos on many issues — especially issues of personal sexual choice — have been changing over time, but views on infidelity have not budged. It has been consistently frowned upon by the masses, across decades and demographics. Adultery is less popular than cloning humans, polygamy, suicide and teenagers having sex — all of which were also close to the bottom of Gallup’s list.

A potential for explosive impact and collateral damage may keep adultery at the bottom of the list, experts told the Deseret News. Infidelity “seemingly has a larger ripple effect than other things like cloning or abortion. It continues to painfully impact a family as they interact at family events and have to raise children together. It affects the lives of children and the extended family as well,” said Kristin Hodson, therapist and founder of Salt Lake-based The Healing Group, who co-wrote “Real Intimacy: A Couples’ Guide to Healthy, Genuine Sexuality.”

Many people — the adult who as a child saw the fallout from a parent’s affair, the boyfriend or girlfriend who was cheated on, the spouse who feels betrayed — have wounds from infidelity, said Hodson. It is not a distant concept, but something raw: “It’s an issue that hits close to home for many that often is surrounded by a lot of pain,” she said.

Seattle therapist Christopher Franklin said an astonishing number of affairs are fueled by sexual addiction. Because humans are programmed for intimacy, Franklin said its violation creates great trauma. “A lot of people I work with develop post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms as a result of affairs,” he said. “It’s very damaging to people.”[/quote]

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