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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think single women often don’t grasp the depth of what it means and how it affects people when men do this.[/quote]

This. When I was in my mid-20s I had a relationship with a married colleague with 3 kids. We travelled M-Th for work and I didn’t think about his wife or family at all except once when I went shopping with him to pick out some expensive earrings for her birthday.  I never contacted him on weekends or when we were apart. I didn’t take any time away that he would be spending with them. If he wasn’t with me, he was drinking with colleagues and clients at the hotel where we all “lived”.

When the project ended, he quit and found a job where he was home 7 nights a week. I saw him in passing at a conference 10 years later and he’s still married. I doubt I was the first or last affair he had. And no, I didn’t want anything bad to happen to his wife. I didn’t want 3 kids and a suburban life.

I travelled full time for a “work hard/play hard” consulting company with generous expense accounts for 10+ years. I’ve been at many a hotel bar at last call. Women talk. A lot of traveling consultants meet their spouse at work and a lot of single people in their 20s hook up, but the vast majority of married men don’t cheat.

I’m married now and the thought of breaking my husband’s heart and having him feel betrayed and disappointed in me is enough to stop me even thinking about cheating. But that’s about me making the decision that no one could be worth throwing away the life I have now.

Adults that cheat are capable of making their own decisions and taking responsibility. It’s not the OW’s job to have a conscience for the cheater.  [/quote]

Well, maybe he’ll break your heart.  You think you’re in a very happy marriage with good sex and then find out he’s been banging a co-worker….it would be good for you to be on the other side of the situation.  Hopefully, karma comes calling.[/quote]

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