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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree it would be a good idea for OP to talk to a therapist or a mature, neutral third party about this. Yes - there are bad people out there, but they are rare. While I would tel most people to go with their gut, OP might need a recalibration.

I worked at a preschool/daycare for a few months while I was waiting for another job to come through. It was a way my daughter could attend preschool and I could bring in a few extra bucks while we were establishing ourselves in the DC area.

Most of the women who worked there were immigrants from the Middle East or Central America. As I got to know them, I learned that all of the women generally fell into 2 camps: those who were truly nurturing, and those who were there only for lack of better opportunities. No one gave off “creepy” vibes.

I was assigned to the Pre-K classroom where thankfully at least the kids in there were potty trained and verbal. There were one or two kids that created 95% of the challenges, but overall, it wasn’t too bad.

I still chuckle when I remember a young woman from Iraq who worked there. She was very beautiful, super sharp, and had kind of spicy attitude when it came to the kids and other workers. She was educated and clearly overqualified, but was still improving her English and had her own young child to care for, so her options were limited. I got the feeling from her that she definitely did not enjoy all of the kids, but I never saw her do it say anything that would have harmed a child. She DID try to pawn off a poopy diapered kid from her class on me once, LOL. We talked from time to time and we once had a conversation about what we really wanted to do career wise. I wonder what she is doing now. I’m sure it’s something better.[/quote]

I'm sorry - but it's not rare.

I don't know any woman who has not been harrassed/sexually approached as a minor/teen or worse - abused/molested, etc. Literally I do not know one. And I've been around for a long time.[/quote]

Um, my post was about daycare.

Yes, pretty much every woman has been catcalled or worse, so yes statistically most girls are at the very least in the receiving end of unwanted sexual attention, usually from men. But MOST men are not involved in that.

But we are talking about apples and oranges. My post was about daycare, which is what OP was freaking out about.

I came here to say that the daycare workers I encountered who weren’t the nurturing type were often there mostly due to lack of better options. That does not make them abusers.

My guess is that OP is kind of privileged and sheltered and just not able to imagine the kind of circumstances less privileged people deal with that might make it harder for them to get other types of jobs. She also seems to lack awareness of other cultures. In many, if not most cultures around the world, children are seen as blessings and caring for children is seen as a wonderful thing for women to do. I am thankful that these women still exist because they are literally one of the last things holding up society. As bad as things are, imagine the type of world we would live in if all people were so self-centered and disliked children?[/quote]

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