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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marriage counseling if he will.

Otherwise, yes, stay.  Until her second year of college.  [/quote]

You’re wrong. It’s actually better to divorce sooner rather than later, if you know you’re going to do it. When you wait to divorce until your kid is 18+, they feel like their childhood was a lie & that the rug is being pulled out from under them. Rip off the band aid[/quote]

+1, by the time she’s in MS or HS she’ll know that her parents are in a loveless marriage. She’ll pity you and see that you chose to be bitter and unhappy. If you do stay for her, never tell her, she feel quilt, shame, and anger.[/quote]

I don’t buy this for a kid in this type of marriage. Op does not describe them as cold to each other. Op says that they do family things together every weekend and generally enjoy weekends, that they have fun together on vacation, that they are kind to each other. For a kid, that will usually be all they need. children do not require lovey dovey parents. My parents aren’t touchy feely and I don’t know if they would describe themselves as “in love”, neither would use something like soul mate or anything like that. They have very different interests. They bicker. But they were (are) partners and built a good, stable, loving family life and in noooo way was I ever in middle school and high school like why don’t my parents kiss more? Are you kidding me? Teens are way too self focused.

I have a loving, stable partnership now as well. Maybe if my parents had more sparks my relationship would have more now too? But I doubt it! I think they taught me that marriage is about partnership and the long haul, what a gift it is to walk through life with someone. That it doesn’t have to be perfect. [/quote]

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