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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To everyone saying "they meant it kindly" or "they were only trying to help", stop.

Impact matters more than intent.

Unsolicited advice is criticism.[/quote]

DP.  I said a ways upthread that, yes, this "unsolicited chastisement of someone else's kid" is helpful, for many kids.  Often times, the kid will knock it off, when a stranger talks to them.  It has worked a couple times with my ASD kid, too.  Not when they are rolling around on the floor screaming (not really clear what OP's DC's meltdown looked like but it doesn't seem to have been at that level) but when they were rigid, stuck, maybe getting-to-meltdown.

All these defensive posts saying that people should never ever talk to a child are strange and living in s a strange  world.  [/quote]

On what planet do you go around interfering with strangers’ kids having meltdowns or tantrums? Do you not get it? This is not “whining” or “rudeness.” It’s a momentary overload. I cannot think of a single justification for doing anything except maybe helping the way some PPs have described (picking up a purse, a kind word later.) [/quote]

PP here.  I am much too chicken to be able to say anything to anyone else's child.  But I have had people, including cashiers, use "the voice" on my DC.  Also teachers when out-and-about in the neighborhood, using their "teacher voice".  Kids hear from their parents all the time how to behave.  It can be very effective for a kid to hear it from another adult.  [/quote]

I don’t need another adult to parent my child *when I am right there* ffs. If I’m not there and they are supervising, sure. But to discipline another parent’s child when she is standing there? No. [/quote]

and also of course - OP’s child was having a meltdown. “the voice” is not going to help. [/quote]

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