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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just want to say that I'm in a different group where moms are begging strangers to help be their "village". The example the mom gave was a child having a meltdown over not getting candy at the checkout line. The woman praised the cashier for also telling her child "no and you need to listen to your mom." Apparently the kid instantly stopped whining. In the comments people are so thrilled when strangers stop their kids from doing dangerous things at playgrounds, aren't playing nicely or are having tantrums.

Just wanted to throw that out because there are differing views and plenty of people wouldn't have minded the cashier saying that to your child.[/quote]

Is that a SN parents group talking about their childrens’ public meltdowns?[/quote]

I’m not that PP but it’s obviously not. An autistic child having a meltdown is not the same as a NT child “whining” for candy. Not the same. No one would look at a meltdown and use the term “whining.”[/quote]

NP here. Right, it's defenitely not. My dd, who has ASD, actually never whines for candy or things. But I could imagine her having a meltdown similar to OP's dd. Op's dd thought she was getting a cookie, had seen other kids get a cookie, had waited patiently in line, and was informed she was NOT getting a cookie. Even an NT kid could get upset from that. And our ASD kids are less flexible and more rigid, so it's harder on them when something changes like that. MY dd is getting more able to calmly handle things-but it's taken time and we've had a few epic meltdowns.

OP, honestly, I wouldn't even talk to anyone like those people who were yakking at your dd. I'd just focus on her and if possible, gather her up and get her away from there. I don't think there is anything you can say to people like that. Even before I had a SN kid, I never made comments to parents of other kids-but some people feel entitled to![/quote]

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