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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is a top student. 1580 SAT. Also took ACT and scored 35. He was accepted to all the schools he applied to and he did not apply to many: GMU, Pitt, VaTech, JMU, VCU, UMD, and WPI. He wants to choose GMU Honors for (1) cost savings and (2) location. We live maybe 35 minutes away. He will live on campus. He can see us every day or never, it's up to him. He has ADHD. He likes his therapist and doesn't want to lose her, he doesn't want to worry about access to his meds, and he takes solace in us being near just in case he needs support. The problem is everyone thinks he is throwing his talent away and they look down on him for his choice. I've heard his friends tease him about it. Many chose UVA, VATech, JMU. W&M. I am proud of him for choosing what is best for him. [b]How do I help him be comfortable and confident in his decision?[/b][/quote]

Is he second guessing his decision?

And are these truly [u]his[/u] preferences on college? Because they sound weak. Therapists can do virtual appts. If he's in-state there won't be any issue w/med access. And it's not like the other schools are all that far away. 
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Have you had an ADHD kid, one who lacks exec functioning?  They are not like a typical 18 yo.  Anxiety often goes along with it (OP didn't state that, but it's often a part of the package), and when things dont go well it can spiral out of control rather quickly.  Especially for a boy, they are likely more like a 14-15yo than an 18yo in terms of overall maturity/decision making ability/brain development, despite how they may appear to others (as the OP stated as well).  The transition to college, even if well managed in HS is a HUGE step.  If the kid feels more comfortable being closer to home and in person therapy, the kid is smart and knows what he wants/needs.  Being 2 hours away could be enough to undo his successes, so why not attend the nearby excellent school. [/quote]

Huh?

I actually have [u]two[/u] kids with ADHD, one inattentive and one severe combined with IEP, meds, therapy, etc. That is how I know about access to meds and therapy. Being a little farther away in VA is no big deal for those things. That’s why they sound like bogus reasons.

If that is the kid’s true preference, great. But it sounds like OP was driving the decision based on how she worded her post. And frankly posting about it at all. 
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