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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ooops I meant what are examples of the preferred tasks?[/quote]

I love the core aspects of my job and can hyperfocus on those tasks. I’m a workaholic for my primary job and do very well. Same for school. Very high academic achiever.

It can take me weeks/months to complete “boring”/uninteresting tasks. 
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So external factors things like school and work get prioritized.

Meanwhile homelife and house and general schedule (not managed by secretary or spouse or mother) in shambles. [/quote]

Wait, what?  I don’t see any indication that anyone’s home life is in shambles.  
I have ADD.  I can give you more examples of my preferred activities:
- playing imagination games with kids, making up rules and stories
- cooking/baking, particularly if it’s something I haven’t made before.  Love it when the kids help, even if they make a mess.
- long family dinners where we laugh and joke a lot
- swimming, hiking, sailing
- working out in the garden (particularly this time of year)
- dancing to loud music and acting silly
- reading (to myself or out loud)
- math, puzzles, puzzle games
- and, of course, working in my chosen profession and teaching adult learners about my work

Things I am not good at:
- filling out forms
- getting places exactly on time
- leaving places exactly on time (basically any transition…I always marvel at people who just get into their car and drive away.  I always feel like I have shot that I need to do and adjust before I go)
- getting up in the morning
- decorating the house
- throwing parties/entertaining 
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Is this list a joke? The first "activities" are all fun hobbies and a good way to spend any day the second is a list of regular adult responsibilities. lol lol. SMH.

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It blows my mind that so many ADD adults think ‘I like doing fun stuff I enjoy, and I don’t like doing the boring stuff I don’t enjoy” is somehow special, unique, or pathological. I know someone will quote post this and say brain chemistry, I literally physically can’t do boring stuff blah blah blah. Okay whatever. But finding boring stuff boring is called….being normal!![/quote]

Said like a neurotypical person with little ability to think critically, unlike those of us with ADHD. It's very different. There's a difference between finding something boring and having the ability to stay focused on it. I have ADHD and find some highly technical, research findings to be enthralling and could read certain things all day that you may find boring. You may be able to focus on a TV show, whether it's boring or not, and an ADHD brain simply cannot. It's not just that we find things boring, when they are boring enough, our brains start filing through the thousands of other things stored there, because that one single thing isn't serving our neurons the dopamine they need to maintain focus on that one thing. You really have to live it to understand that it's different. With all that said, I agree that the PP's post just lists easy (some might call them fun, but they don't all sound great to me) in the first list and average, non-fun things in the second. I have severe ADHD and executive function disorder and I have zero problems getting up in the morning, showing up places on time, or filling out forms. I don't think her list is meant to describe what people with ADHD can and can't do. And also: his wife's bonds ae none of OP's business.[/quote]

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