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[quote=Anonymous]OP, have you had a conversation (not in the heat of the moment) to see if your husband thinks you have a bit of a temper? If a friend felt slighted and reacted negatively, it’s not a normal reaction to get all crazy defensive back to them.  That’s not how normal adults communicate. Somebody needs to be the adult in the room and not escalate adult intersections (even if the friend reaction was not right).

I would much rather have a measured, thoughtful, generally conflict-avoider for a partner than a hothead with a temper who looks for slights.

I wouldn’t blow up a marriage over this. It’s probably worth *both* of you doing some self-reflection on how your own “fight, freeze or flight” reactions manifest themselves in times of stress. It would be good if you could each exhibit some empathy for a partner with different immediate reactions and how you both might move towards the middle a bit.

Also the MIL issue is easy - just don’t be around her as much and let your DH be the communicator. Look up the “gray rock” approach - that might be just what you need. [/quote]

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