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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean don't all parents want the best for their kids ? How is not helping and wanting them to get to best college that they can get to is looked down upon. Agreed, out of the many definitions of best college, is up to the kids and parents to decide.

It's a balancing act, you push too much you become a Tiger mom, push too little and you risk kids not getting to their potential (or their idea of how much money they need to make to get to a comfortable life).[/quote]
+1 Even my 17 yr old recently told me that they wished I pushed them more.  I did a big eye roll and said if I had done that you would've thrown a fit and hated me. Then DC said, you should've just ignored me and made me do it.  Please.  You can't win.  Parenting is all about a balancing act.  [/quote]

Haha! My kids told me the same about sports.  My 19yo was like "I just realized I could have made a great college qb. Why didn't you make me stay in football?"  I wanted to tackle him right then and there. He hated the summer practices and insisted on quitting.

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DP, Another story.. we were talking about college acceptances. My kids friend's older brother got into MIT for CS. I took the opportunity to tell my Asian kid interested in CS how hard it is to get to MIT and it is such a lottery. When the time comes, consider not even applying for it, if you are not in the top 2% of the class. He is a freshman right now. He goes like, wow mom you don't believe in me.. you don't think that I have a shot..

Kids come in all shapes and sizes. My younger one in middle school doesn't even want to go into CS because he thinks it's too competitive even though he definitely has a knack for math and CS. You bet, I parent my kids differently, there is no one size that fits all. Sometimes being a supportive parent is to let them apply to MIT (or Top 20) so they don't live with regrets vs. encouraging them to set their sights lower. When the time comes we will make sure that kid has some likelies in college list, but I have a feeling that it will also be filled up MIT, CMU and Stanford.    [/quote]

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