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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a picky eater.  I have tons of stomach issues and I don't like forcing myself to eat anything.  I am perfectly happy for this to not be anyone's problem but mine.  However, there are people who will constantly nag you about what you're eating, why you're not eating much, how they make the best pickled beets, etc.  I just attended a conference with 2 co-workers and they are also picky/have some food issues.  I was so relieved when we picked out places to eat.  It was basically, "Would you eat here?"  If so, we'd go and no one commented on anyone else's food choices.  It was so nice knowing that I wasn't about to get an inquisition about how much/what I was eating.  I know that some people can be really annoying about wanting you to accommodate them and I don't like that either.  I wish we all could just be less critical of each other.[/quote]

I don’t think it’s critical for OP to say she’s tired of being the host to a group of people whose pickiness gets worse and the “goalposts move.” OP never said she watches what people eat, she’s just tired of adults telling her not to make fruit salad and other demands. If you’ve cooked for a crowd and been a frequent host, you’d get it.[/quote]

I don't think PP was accusing OP of that. She's saying that staying silent and handling one's own food issues also comes with pitfalls. (I've absolutely experienced this, solidarity.)

PP just said "there are people" but I'd go farther and say that most hosts, who have gone to some trouble to cook, notice what you don’t eat. Some don't realize that it's uncomfortable to comment on it. [/quote]

Like a PP, I welcome a challenge as a hostess for a true issues friend and not the POS fad changers. But I do know when it’s beyond my skill (my celiac friend) and am glad for them to take a seat even if they eat nothing
Ahh, so even if picky eaters enjoy the company and don’t make a scene or any trouble about the food, they’re persona non grata at your exclusive events. Noted. And it confirms what I’ve thought about people judging picky eaters - the ones, again, who keep their preferences to themselves because it’s no one else’s issue.
I don’t notice or care if it’s a big holiday meal like Thanksgiving. [b]I never comment, but I do notice if it’s a dinner party.[/b] It’s fine, I don’t ask or even care what or why, I just make a mental note to only invite certain people to big events with lots of choices, [b]and not to put them on my dinner party roster.[/b] I go to a lot of trouble for dinner parties, and I frankly don’t want to go through the trouble for picky people. They are welcome to come to bigger events. [/quote]

It is what it is. No thanks, I’m not going to go to a lot of trouble and expense only to have someone sit and push food around the plate. I’ll still enjoy your company—in a setting with lots of food choices where you can make a plate. But for dinner parties, I prefer not to waste my time, money and effort on someone who doesn’t appreciate it. You can be “there for just the company” in other scenarios in my home. Dinner parties are for grown-ups who appreciate the time, effort and expense it takes to make a lovely menu for adults. I don’t want to make a lot of effort for someone who is just going to eat a roll; you’re taking up the seat of someone who can handle a nice dinner party with adults.[/quote]
Yep. You have confirmed what I thought. It is what it is and you are what you are. Even people with preferences - preferences that they don’t push on you or make your problem at all - are unwelcome at your table. Noted. [/quote][/quote]

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