Reply to I cannot stop feeling so deeply angry at someone

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "I cannot stop feeling so deeply angry at someone"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things that helped me when I was targeted by malicious gossip and humiliated in a work situation and had PTSD for YEARS:
1. I made the decision mentally that all of the people involved, including people I had thought were my friends, were not material to my life.. I was never going to get their loyalty, maybe they’d never liked me for all I knew, but I put them all in the same bucket. Simply people who don’t like me, but also have no ability to harm me further because I no longer had anything to do with them. I also reminded myself that I didn’t like them.
2. I focused on strengthening my own sense of self. I worked to accomplish goals I’d neglected while trying to sort out the hostile work situation. It took a long time to reset the power dynamic but I suddenly was an equal professionally. When I felt less subordinate, even though I was in a different workplace, I felt less angry. 
3. I made meaning out of what happened to me. I thought about what I had learned and used that knowledge to help others in the same situation.
4. Not gonna lie, I wasn’t overt in any way, but I found ways over the years to subtly undermine them. But mostly they undid themselves.
5. Radical acceptance. I stopped trying to be less angry. I figured the feelings would burn themselves out, and while it took years, that did happen.
6. For me, the movie Stutz was helpful. It’s about Jonah Hill’s therapist. I think you will relate to it. Pay attention to the scene that involves sending love to the person you hate. In the abstract that might sound horrible, but it makes sense when you watch the movie. Good luck![/quote]

Thanks for this. I am not OP but also went through a terrible workplace bullying incident. I can relate to OP. How she feels but also recognise that family and friends start to worry when I continually bring it up.

What makes me sad is that the person that bullied me is doing really well now professionally. They have stomped all over people to get there but it has helped not hindered their career. I like to think that their terrible behaviour will be their undoing at some point but have to come to terms that this may not be the case. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics