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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also giving birth is a huge accomplishment. Why can’t women be proud of however they gave birth? Be proud you went unmedicated whether in a hospital or at home with candles galore. Be proud you chose every intervention possible. Be proud that you had one plan and then pivoted again and again as the situation deemed necessary. Whatever your path was, you are entitled to feel proud abd if you wanna share so share.

This thread reeks of internalized misogyny and so much side eye and subtle scorn towards women who want to share and are proud of their birth story. I get how when people gloat and think they are better than it is annoying, but that isn’t about births, that’s their personality. Stop making women pay for bad personalities by making it about one type of birth or another. I think women (and all people for that matter) should feel amazingly proud and free to share if they’ve been through something as incredible as making a baby with their body. [/quote]

Everyone would be happier if we just focus on the baby after.  We don't really want to hear the birth story.  Unless something super interesting happened.  Like Tom Hanks delivered your baby on a plane or something.

To the OP: you keep saying that you support other women, but you wrote your question in a loaded way.  You've gotten your answer.  No one is "bothered" by an unmedicated birth.  People are bothered by birth-story braggarts.

End of thread.[/quote]

What’s so wrong with wanting to share how you gave birth?  I find the judgement and irritation strange.  I am always happy to hear how someone gave birth, however it happened.  It’s a powerful and life-changing moment: why shouldn’t it be shared?

FWIW a friend just texted me today at her 34th (!) hour of labor, telling me she’d stalled at 5 cm and had gotten an epidural and was receiving Pitocin.  I texted her words of encouragement, because isn’t that what friends are for?  I very much look forward to seeing her when she’s ready for company and hearing about her experience.[/quote]

Well I had postpartum PTSD. And a 4th degree tear. And prolapse. That is what birth did to me. I am facing corrective surgery and now have diminished anal
continence. And I was in diapers for months after birth because I could not control gas or stool. I literally went to work after maternity leave in Depends and took massive doses of Imodium and had panic attacks that I was going to have an accident in the middle of a meeting or around someone else.

So no, I don’t want to hear about your great birth. I don’t want to hear how your preparation made all the difference for you and how proud you were and what a wonderful experience it was. For me it was the day I lost a big part of myself to give birth to a healthy child and it’s a loss that never goes away. So consider that no everyone wants to hear your story And that it can be triggering for anyone with birth injuries or who lost a baby or who is infertile and wasn’t able to have a baby. [/quote]

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