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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"(PP still here: but as I mentioned above I do work really hard and often to organize outings to museums, pool, local free or low-cost stuff around town, fun dinners out, that type of thing, so hopefully our friends do still feel we are extending ourselves and enjoy them and wish to reciprocate in this way!) "

If you're not paying, you're not hosting.[/quote]

Yeah, I can see that point of view.  I guess then, I just probably cannot be close friends with, or move in circles with, people like this b/c we are probably in two different places in our lives right now. . . no harm, no foul, I think people like you are very nice people and it's very nice that you host a lot, but I think we have different priorities. . . good luck to you.[/quote]

But do you accept, repeatedly, invitations from friends at their homes?  I'm talking established people in their 40s.[/quote]

Neither we nor our friends are in our 40s yet so I don't know.  We are still in our 30s.  But, if people keep inviting us to stuff like this, no, I'd start to decline.  I'd feel the differences b/w our two lifestyles, as I would hope/expect the host/hostess would as well, and see that we are sort of living differently these days.  We do have one couple who seems to make a lot more $$ than the rest of us and therefore have interest and resources to do things differently from the rest of us, and I don't really go to things at their house anymore, except for the rare occasion when they host something for our whole entire group of high school friends, as sort of an ersatz reunion type of thing.  But, on a regular basis, no, we don't accept invitations to their house and our paths  have kind of deviated.  We just live differently.  I work and am never around during the week.  The other mom doesn't and yet also has a housekeeper at the same time.  If they host, she has time and resources to do all these types of elaborate recipes, etc.  She has fun doing this and tracks down new recipes and decorating ideas from pinterest, etc.   I just don't have time or interest for this; in my limited time, this is not what I would be choosing to spend my time doing; I'd must rather organize a more casual get-together at Wolf Trap or something downtown or going to see the Titanic exhibit at the National Geographic Museum.  So I believe she and I have sort of figured out that we are living two different ways so she doesn't really invite us anymore -- unless it's a big group type of event maybe once every few years -- and I don't accept if we are invited more frequently than that.  We just are interested in different things and are in different places in our lives.  I don't get really jazzed by trying a neat new decoration I saw on pinterest or trying a new dip recipe in the shape of something fabulous.  [/quote]

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