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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are not paying for human, so please don't phrase it that way.

You can pay for the SERVICES of professionals that help you on your path to becoming parents (i.e. social workers, physicians). But you are NOT buying a baby. OP's wording is extremely offensive. It would be regardless of how the couple is making parenthood possible.[/quote]

If you buy sperm, buy a donor egg, and buy a surrogate, how is that not buying a baby? You have not contributed a single component other than money. [i]That's[/i] what is offensive.[/quote]

I would never tell anyone this IRL but privately I think it's Orwellian and worry about how the child will feel about this when grown. Like a science experiment? Select an egg donor from menu A, and a sperm donor from menu B based on "desirable" traits... I am uncertain about the ethics...There's also such a power imbalance between the young women who are egg "donors" (which carriers risk, sometimes not immediately apparent) and those who buy their eggs...it can be exploitative.. I know that some people are desperate to become parents and do become loving parents, but when does it become an act of selfishness? Should this industry be better regulated? I am sorry if this makes any parents who have engaged in this practice feel defensive but am thinking about the children...would never say this to anyone I know.[/quote]

Rather than speculating, why don't you see what they have to say for themselves?  Here is a website for LGBTQ+ families focused on the experiences of the children, some now adults: https://colage.org/our-story/  My sperm bank strongly recommended reading their stories and recommendations to new parents for how to raise donor conceived people in ways that are not hurtful to them (the children).  There are many other stories online (some positive some negative) about being donor conceived.  Don't just say "think about the children" and assume the children think exactly as you do.[/quote]

PP again.  I do want to add -- I think your concerns for the potential power dynamic with egg donors (and surrogates that others have posted) are a different consideration entirely, and I personally would like to see those industries (as well as sperm donation honestly) have more regulation.  I am only addressing the "thinking about the children" comment you made.[/quote]

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