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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Self-confident women don’t want “traditionalism”.  That’s a mechanism to control women. [/quote]

I have a “traditional” marriage there is nothing controlling about it.  It was my choice.  I have a very good life;  [/quote]

Your poor kids. [/quote]

Why my poor kids?[/quote]

Reinforced stereotypes & lack of role models. [/quote]

How is this reinforcing stereotypes?  I like being there/picking kids when kids up from school.  I like entertaining/hosting/cooking.  I enjoy spoiling my husband and he enjoys spoiling me, we have fun and have a great marriage.

Why I am I not role model?  I was successful very young, DH is successful, there is no need for both of us to work.  Prioritizing, my family time and doing things I enjoy has improved my mental health dramatically.  I am not lazy and sitting around all day watching TV, drinking wine, eating cake.

We are specs in a huge universe, outside of very small group of people no one is gong to remember what we did in our careers or care what we accomplished.  And in 1000 years even the legacy of current presidents will be mostly unknown.
Having a career outside of the home doesn’t make you a role model.  Being a kind, empathetic and well rounded person is the type of role model I fell that I am.[/quote]

Your kids are learning that [u]women[/u] take care of the kids/home/cooking and [b]men[/b] work and “spoil” their families. They don’t see you as an independent, successful person. You are an accessory to your DH.

You are happy with your choices, but you are reinforcing stereotypes and not providing a role model of a strong, independent woman. 
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Do you think an income separate from your husbands is the only thing that makes you independent.  How am I not successful, is have it a job outside of the home the only thing that makes someone successful?

I am no one’s “accessory”.  And if you read what I wrote; I said we spoil each other in different ways, I didn’t say what those way were, so stop jumping to conclusions.

You have a very narrow minded view of what can take place in a loving, respectful marriage where [b]roles [/b]were disused and expectations were mutual agreed upon.  We communicated all of this openly. [/quote]

Traditional roles that reinforce the gender stereotypes.

You’d be independent if you had your own life with significant responsibilities/achievements outside of the home. But you’ve limited your role to inside your home. [/quote]

What is with all of the assumptions? What significant responsibilities do you have that I don't?   You have no idea what my achievements are.  My role is not limited to inside the house, I handle a lot of the day to day stuff, but I am not chained to the house by any means.  [/quote]

Who does the cooking, cleaning, laundry, doctor appts, etc?

Your kids see what they see. “Traditional roles” just reinforce gender stereotypes. 
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You are triggered by gender stereotypes. They work out well for many people.[/quote]

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