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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This just happened. My son (3y) and I are at a diner eating breakfast. The guests in front of us left and as they were leaving, struck up conversation with my son. He said he had a great-niece and said I had to ensure I do everything for her (misgendering my son). He said it a couple of times so it wasn’t an error. I didn’t correct - it happens often because he has soft features and my son didn’t hear it. If he had, I would have said something for my son’s sake.

Anyway, then he asked my son if I was his grandma and said he has to listen to Grandma and no pouting or complaining. To be clear, my son was eating his food and no tantrums at all, stayed in his seat the whole time eating his food so that was just a general comment. It’s just frustrating and happens enough that it makes me wonder if other people think it but don’t say it.

I’m 42, turning 43 this year. I get that I got an older start but it’s demoralizing to be assumed to be my son’s grandmother. I usually don’t correct the person bc that’s more embarrassing and I just want the conversation to end. Am I alone in this? Does it ever end?[/quote]

In the diner regions of the US many women have children in their late teens and early 20's so it is common for women in their 40's to be grandmas.[/quote]

i don't have anything to contribute except i love the term "diner region." it's so specific, yet instantly recognizable--gritty, blue collar areas of the northeast have diners.

Actually I do have a contribution. i was once carrying a sack of flour wrapped in a bag, and an elderly gentleman complimented me on my beautiful baby. i think sometimes the older people are not totally there mentally.[/quote]
[b]Every area of the northeast has diners.[/b] The college town where my kid is has multiple diners and a median HHI higher than Bethesda.[/quote]

Yeah that threw me a bit as someone from the NYC area. Every town has a diner! But no, not lots of late teen early 20s moms in Great Neck, Chatham, or Chappaqua.

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