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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same here. It only solidified my decision to have 2. It is just chaos, all the time. No thank you. [/quote]

Exactly. The whole meme of the frazzled mom who hasn't showered in a week and whose house is a disaster so does not appeal to me. It seems like lots of people think that's the only way to be a "real" mom, but I'd much rather have a manageable life. Since DH and I both work full-time and it's very important for me to have the time to keep the house clean, laundry done, etc. 1 child is enough for us. I don't understand the deification of stress and suffering in the parenting community.

If you can easily handle 3 kids, go for it, but if you *know* it'll stress you out, why put yourself through that? It can't be good for you, your marriage, or your kids. There's no shame in stopping with what you know is a manageable situation.[/quote]

OMG I would die if I had 3 kids.  Seriously.  The logistics of having 3 is even hard.  I mean - I can't imagine paying for another person travelling - accommodations, flights, seats, it's so hard to plan for 5 v 4 people.  And the time it takes to get a kid to an age where you can sleep!  The money it takes to get them through school to college.  I had a nanny and a back-up nanny when my kids are young because I work.  Clearly, I am not natural mom material LOL

I had a lot of motivation to have 1+ kids - I'm an only child and had a very very lonely and disfunctional family. My kids have no cousins and I really wanted to do at least 2 kids so they have each other.  3-4 would have been better but 2 is pushing it for us.  It is so hard.  I suppose if you have all the money and energy in the world, it's a whole lot easier.  I suppose if you are really easy going and are lucky enough to have really easy perfect kids, having a few is not a big deal.  For me, I hated every millisecond of pregnancy and I am not into infant phase.  I much prefer being able to have a conversation with my kids now that they are MS aged.

We are surrounded by families with 3 kids as well and I say - good luck to them all.  I absolutely think 2 is enough but I also get families who try for a 3rd for an opposite gender :)  I was lucky enough to have a DD and a DS.  I say to people who want 3 kids and can't have 3 - get a dog!!!  [/quote]

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