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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was in a similar boat at your age. Two boys around your boys' ages.

I had a third (at age 41) solely because I wanted a girl. I got her and it's wonderful. The age gap (9 years between my oldest and youngest) is a nonissue. Actually it's very sweet - the boys adore their little sister.

I will say I would've preferred to have only two kids. Three is a bit chaotic. I work full time so I never quite feel anyone gets enough one on one time with me anymore. Also three kids is expensive. It increases cost for everything - vacations are a lot more now, plus activities for all three and as the kids each get into their own thing sometimes we're truly in a bind with how to get them everywhere since there are three of them and two of us.

Had I had a girl for the second, I definitely would've stopped. Now that I'm here I'm happy, and I'm proud of my "big" family, but I think a family of four sounds amazing too.[/quote]

What if your 3rd had been a boy?  I can’t believe people have a child solely to try to get a specific sex not because they actually want that number of children.  What if your daughter doesn’t live up to your expectations of why you wanted a girl or ends up transgender?   [/quote]

Are you kidding? You can’t seriously not know some people want a certain sex. I wanted a girl. Some girl parents may want a boy.[/quote]

Of course many people have preferences for a girl or a boy when they are pregnant. But to solely go for a 3rd child only because you want a specific sex not because you have any actual interest in having a 3rd child otherwise is very different. [/quote]

OP would have loved her child regardless of the sex. Maybe they "went for" a girl and got a girl, but she would have loved her third child if she got a boy. I am a case in point. We have two amazing girls and we went for a third hoping for a boy. And we found out that we are having a girl (I'm pregnant now with girl #3). Were we disappointed? Yes and no. We are sad that we are not going to have a boy (3 is our limit) and experience that situation but we are also happy that we are by all accounts having a healthy girl and we will love her as much as a boy. People have gender preferences and that's OK. There is no reason to make people feel bad about how they feel. Someone can be both happy about something and disappointed that something else is not going to happen. [/quote]

I had two girls and desperately wanted a third girl. We got a boy and I was a bit disappointed to be honest. That boy is now 4 and I love him to pieces! I love that we get to parent a boy and see his relationship with us parents and sisters being so different. I am so happy he was a boy! At the same time, I am sure my third daughter would have been just as awesome and would have gotten along probably more easily with her sisters, etc. 
I think in the end it’s a different person and It’s cool and exciting because it’s a completely different experience. Even my two daughters could not have been more different and yet they get along super well.

Congrats on your girl! Girls are awesome![/quote]

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