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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want a third have one. The spacing and timing could be perfect. No ship has sailed [/quote]

Agree you can have another if you want, it isn’t too late.  But as several PPs have said, 3 is HARD.  Especially as the older two enter late elementary and tween years on up.  The sports, activities, homework, unique school/learning needs.  friends, staying on top of all their everything, the massive amounts of food required; it is a lot of mentally energy and physical time.  And doing all that oh plus you have a 5 yr old.. in a totally different stage of development with all that that requires is a lot.

It is a whole lot easier if you have local family the youngest can stay with when you have all day swim meets or tournaments or you are a taxiing one kid to piano and the other kid to the orthodontist.

If it is just you and DH doing the work and you are not likely to hire a nanny, just be forewarned, your marriage will be stressed.[/quote]

All this!!!  I thought three was a breeze until the kids got older. Now it’s much harder and stressful if I really want to do it well and meet each of their needs fully. The poor 3rd kid is dragged to so much. [/quote]

I’m a 4th kid that was “dragged” to a lot. Should my parents not have had me? Lol. There are much worse things in life than going food shopping, waiting in the car for school pick ups, and doing homework while your siblings take tennis lessons etc. It’s one downside of a smaller family, I guess, but the upside is the fun of having multiple siblings for life. I say this as a parent of two - I’m not sure I can handle a third as a parent - but the 3rd kid will be just fine if getting “dragged” places is the worst part of their childhood.[/quote]

If it didn’t bother you, then no big deal. My sibling who was the youngest still talks about being dragged everywhere for older siblings, and how she never got to do as many of her own activities as us etc etc.  She felt like her needs were second fiddle to older siblings who never were forced to go to her stuff. Not saying you shouldn’t have a bigger family because of this but it’s not not a big deal for all kids. [/quote]

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