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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, complaining about your bangin' curves and pronounced hip-to-waist ratio isn't going to make people all that sympathetic. [/quote]

I'm not complaining about my curves or looking for sympathy.  I'm explaining a phenomenon that might be happening given that OP has said his gf is curvy.  You don't get it because you haven't lived it, but we can buy the same clothes from the same professional retailers and have people like this entire thread thinking we're trolling for sex while the woman next to us looks completely professional and will not be judged.  There's a learning curve.[/quote]

OP. I do take your point and definitely agree that curvy features will cause some unfair issues regarding acceptability of work attire. Part of this is the nature of the corporate beast; you relinquish some of your freedom and individuality.

It seems like you had your own period of evolution and acceptance of corporate realities. How would you feel if a sig other made a comment, however benign, in the earlier part of your evolution?[/quote]

If my SO had said something like "whoa I can't look away from your *ss in that dress!" I would have been complimented but also thought wait, maybe this is not a good work look.  If he said it "made him uncomfortable" and "wasn't work appropriate" I would have felt ashamed (we get a lot of shaming over our bodies starting in like 5th grade) and simultaneously condescended to.  You can't take it back but you can think about how you phrase things going forward - it's completely weird to tell her what to wear.  "What's the occasion?" like someone suggested upthread is a simple, nonjudgmental way to point out that someone is wearing something slightly outside of what you expected without all this subtext that she's trying to sleep with her boss.[/quote]

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