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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like your brother.[/quote]

I love your brother. Too bad he's already taken (j/k)

Seriously, though, the lack of critical thinking in this thread makes me despair for the future. If posters were complaining about the OP and his wife failing to treat all of the daughters with reasonable parity, those critiques would be justified. But the "issue" here--which frankly would be a non-issue if the OP's wife weren't irrational and greedy--is that a member of the OP's extended family wants to sustain the generosity he has shown to the niece he's known and loved since the day of her birth, one that manifests itself in the form of an annual excursion and thus as an intrinsically temporary experience that in the broader scheme of things creates no imbalance in the quality of the girls' respective day-to-day lives. To be clear, the problem isn't that the OP's stepdaughters would like to be treated to a trip to Dubai--who wouldn't?--but that their mom, apparently lacking both IQ and EQ, hasn't helped them to process their disappointment in a healthy way by putting the whole situation in its proper perspective. The step-nieces are adolescents, one of whom is actually a young adult, and all of whom are old enough to understand that, having just become part of the OP's family, they don't have the kind of relationship with the OP's brother that the OP's daughter obviously has with him and that might warrant the kind of generosity he has shown to her.

And to echo other posters, the OP's wife has in fact screwed over her kids financially by remarrying because colleges will take her husband's income into account and they will not be eligible for as much financial aid as they otherwise would have been if both of their parents were still able to tick the box for "divorced." But there is a solution to this particular problem, and were I the OP, I'd effect it pronto.[/quote]

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