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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]The stairs keep me healthy/strong. [/b]And we’ve lived here 25 years, love our neighborhood and neighbors. Why move unless we have to? Plus, for the amount of our mortgage payment, we’d get half the space in today’s market, whether a rental or new purchase. [/quote]
That's exactly what my ILs said until they couldn't handle it.   Then they were forced to move.   At some point, you won't be able to handle it.  I think the consensus is to move before you hit that stage when it's harder to move.

I'm not saying you should move when you are 60.  But, I think before 72 is a good time.[/quote]
I have plenty of relatives who lived or have lived in multiple story houses until they died in their 80s or 90s. If the stairs become an issue I’ll move. If they don’t then I won’t.[/quote]

I also find it unusual that so many people can’t even climb stairs in their 80’s. This was not the case for most of my relatives.[/quote]

Both my grandparents lived in a house with stairs until they were 85 and 91. Neither had any problems with the stairs. 
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Its one of those things that is completely fine until the one day it is not, and you break a hip and do not walk again.[/quote]

Wow.  I can't believe I stumbled on this post today.

My parents had this attitude.  My mother died.  Then my father got cancer and declined so rapidly it was unbelievable.  Dealing with the fall out right now including moving his bedroom down to a first floor room (not meant to be a bedroom) in his house, which he is resisting.  And that doesn't even cover all the other things about his house that he is unable to maintain and don't work for him anymore.  Plus, he's incredibly isolated.  It's depressing.

The reason to do it is because the end of your life could get very tricky.  It could not.  But there is a very good chance it will.  Not many people die in bed quietly healthy and completely mobile.  Once thing get to this point, it's too late to move (you don't feel well...you're not mobile anymore...and you're too far past any assisted living place taking you) and then it's someone else's problem to deal with what you wouldn't deal with.  [/quote]

+1 So many in this older generation do not think about anyone, but themselves and then they expect their adult children to rescue them at a moment's notice. And they complain when they get their wish of aging in place and feel isolated and miserable. It's heartbreaking, but you remind yourself this is the life they chose when of sound mind and able body and I tried to get them to think about other options.[/quote]

Are you really calling people in their 60s and 70s selfish if they don't move to a what..facility, an asisted living? Are  you for real?

Will I see Elizabeth Warren there? Hilary Clinton? Chuck Schumer? What are you even talking about? You realize cancer can happen in your 30s and 40s, right? You can break something at any time. [/quote]

Not sure what those people have to do with this topic.

But yes by mid to late 70s if you haven’t begun to think about how you will age safely and without requiring crisis-level intervention from your children if anything goes wrong, yup you are selfish.

If you have no adult children and just plan to fall down your stairs and let someone find you a couple days later, then nope not selfish.  Carry on with your plan.[/quote]

"Begun to think" is not the same as moving now. Come on[/quote]

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