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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]The problem seems to be that and your DH have different priorities.  He is family-oriented while you are financially oriented.[/b]

You are also pretty ignorant about serious mental health conditions and money.  Your DH is right to be concerned that his brother will be preyed upon or will otherwise be penniless shortly after receiving any inheritance.

Finally, are you both in agreement about how much house to buy and how to finance it, or do you want a nicer house than he feels the need for, and you want him to fund the more expensive house with his inheritance?[/quote]

You can also say the opposite. DH is financially oriented for wanting to stockpile his money for his brother and not share it like OP, while OP wants to use the money to better life for her own family.[/quote]

This was my read as well.  OP said in her opener, [quote]Over the course of our marriage I have received substantial financial support from my parents that have greatly benefited our family (help with a down payment on our current house, funding kids' private school and 529s, as well as cash gifts that I have used for house upgrades and family vacations). [/quote]

I think the course correction here is for OP to stop comingling her own inheritance, especially since her DH won't dip into his.  Save it in a separate, rainy day fund for herself.  That alone should help relieve some of the resentment she feels, which I think I would also feel under the circumstances she has described.  [/quote]

OP doesn’t have an inheritance. She has gifts from her parents.  I think those would be considered marital assets but I could be wrong.  Bottom line is that the DH’s mom needs to set up a trust for the brother. And OP really needs to check her privilege.[/quote]

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