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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always assume there are a lot of shitty dynamics at play that get you to a place where a women is investing so much energy into her household and a man investing none. It’s usually where a woman is investing way more time and effort into the household than her kids reasonably need, and he is pulling himself away from the household than us reasonable healthy (and not a reflection of his capabilities).  It’s usually because there are already bigger issues in the marriage and they’re both subconsciously trying to make a point and digging their heels into their positions.

Regardless, I think women who convince themselves that all intense hard work and investment into their family is the only reason their kids are successful and their husbands career is going well…. I think those women are deluding themselves. But once you drink the koolaid and dive head first into that life, I guess that’s what you‘ve got to believe to sleep at night.[/quote]

Hmm yeah OK. Let me know which one of these functions that I do exclusively is "way more time and effort" than my household reasonably needs:

- paying the mortgage
- paying all bills
- 80% of the childcare by time
- bathing children
- buying children's clothes
- 95% of the cooking
- 95% of the cleaning
- organizing house cleaners
- organizing all aspects of home maitenance
- all doctor & dentist appointments
- health insurance and medical bills
- obtaining an IEP and annual meetings and ensuring it is implemented
- all kid laundry
- coordinating kid social life
- camps
- kid contact with grandparents
- holiday planning, decorating, gift purchasing, relatives, meal cooking
- all gardening/landscaping
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Interesting list.  My household:

- paying the mortgage (all husband)
- paying all bills (all husband)
- 80% of the childcare by time (60/40 Husband)
- bathing children (even split)
- buying children's clothes (all wife)
- 95% of the cooking (60/40 wife)
- 95% of the cleaning (husband majority)
- organizing house cleaners (wife)
- organizing all aspects of home maitenance (husband)
- all doctor & dentist appointments (even split)
- health insurance and medical bills (husband)
- obtaining an IEP and annual meetings and ensuring it is implemented (N/A)
- all kid laundry (husband, all laundry)
- coordinating kid social life (even split)
- camps (organizing split, transportation husband)
- kid contact with grandparents (wife, parents are closer)
- holiday planning, decorating, gift purchasing, relatives, meal cooking (leans wife)
- all gardening/landscaping (all husband)

This is the Husband (43M) writing this, but I think that with a couple of exceptions (cooking), my wife would agree.  [/quote]

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