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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to me. My XW was angry a significant portion of the time, and yet she wouldn't talk to me. So I had to become endlessly solicitous to try to find the thing that pleased her. It was exhausting, and doomed to fail.

Then she had a bunch of meetings with her happily divorced friend, and she latched join to the idea that the issue was me and life would be better without me. Once the idea was planted it became the thesis, and every interaction was interpreted to enforce the thesis. So she ended it. It was messy, and painful, and expensive for both of us. And then there was the impact on our child.

Fast forward a couple of years and our child said to me: "mom was always mad, and she was convinced it was all your fault. Now she's mad and she can't blame you so she ends up taking it out on me." The anger has been such that she's called our child names and threatened things that TBH will never be forgotten. Regardless of how she feels about me, there's an opportunity for her to address unresolved issues from childhood for her relationship with her child, and any other relationship she has. Whether she takes that step or not is entirely up to her.

Through our community I have heard that she's surprised that life isn't what she'd expected, that I'm thriving (including with a new relationship), that her relationship with her child has become notably worse since the divorce. She's reached out to friends for advice, and I applaud her for paying attention.

But to the OP: this absolutely happened to me. It's NEVER as simple as you think, regardless of which side you're on. And, I sincerely wish her the best.

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This of course received no replies because people can't fathom that sometimes it's the woman at fault.[/quote]

Sorry your attempted thread jack didn’t get you the attention you so crave. Try a red pill board maybe? [/quote]

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