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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some women get pregnant naturally and easily at 43.  
Other women are completely infertile at that age. 
Most are in between.

There are about 400K IVF cycles each year in the US and about 10% or 40K are donor egg. 
Most people tell no-one about donor egg--not their mother, sister, best friend, etc.

I'm an IVF nurse. 
For all the people saying "so and so conceived this way, at that time": 
Unless you were in the room when it happened you really have no idea regardless of what the couple is (or isn't) saying. 
Couples lie all.the.time for their own protection.

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No, not this. Sure IVF is common and a lot of middle class folks can afford it with insurance coverage. Not so donor eggs - most folks aren't going to go down that road because of cost.

I don't know why there is a contingent of women on DCUM who can't fathom that some women are fertile. My friend had 2 boys easily in her late 30s. At 42 they wanted to go for a third and yes they were hoping for a girl. After a few months of trying they did do IVF and she had her girl at 44.

No donor eggs, couldn't afford them and couldn't justify it for a 3rd baby, but because of her history of fertility she was a good candidate for IVF in her 40s. It doesn't work for everyone but if you are fertile it can work. 
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Okay. Let’s take your one anecdote over an IVF nurse’s experience…you aren’t adding to the conversation.[/quote]

The IVF nurse is implying a lot of women are lying about donor eggs. Celebs maybe, but let's not act as every woman has access to the resources for donor eggs. Implying that is ridiculous. [/quote]
The part that flew right over your head is that the nurse was saying that lots of women *who are definitely using donor eggs* do not disclose that fact to anyone. She wasn’t implying that practically every 40-something woman who gets pregnant used donor eggs. She specifically said that only 10% of IVF cycles involve donor eggs. [/quote]

She was trying to discount people's stories of women in their family and friends circles who got pregnant late by saying women who use donor eggs don't tell.

I'm sure that is true, but not everyone uses donor eggs. [/quote]
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My 75-year old aunt was born when my grandmother was 46, the last of her seven children. I’m reasonably certain IVF and donor eggs were not a thing back then.[/quote]

Same time period, my mother was born when my grandmother was 45. She was the second child, my uncle was born (first pregnancy) when she was 43. [/quote]

+1. Birth control was a game changer. It meant that women who didn't want babies in their 40s, didn't have to have them. I'm gen X. My mom is 75, so my grandmas are not alive but they were the generation cranking out babies well into their 40s because they didn't have a way to stop it.

Now, a lot of women have had their babies by 40 and take precautions not to have any more. Or have not had kids and have decided they don't want them. That doesn't mean no women in their 40s can have babies. [/quote]

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