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[quote=Anonymous]Its very important that you get a stretch of sleep, even if you can nap during the day. It is also important that your DH sleep but going to bed at 10 pm, getting up at 6 am to work out every day..no.there's plenty of time for that in a little while when the baby sleeps more. He should go to bed at 10, get up at 5/6 pm and take the morning feeding, allowing you to sleep until he needs to get ready for work at 7:30 or whatever.

When my son was born, he had bad colic and woke up every 2 hours until he was 6 months old, when we started to get 4 and 5 hour stretches. . Occasionally 3, but that was rare. Never 4 hours.  It was hell.  I would take the first half of the night , until about 3:40/4 am, and then DH would take 3:30/4 am to 7/8 am. This was when I was on leave and he was working. DH would drive around at 4 am to try to get my son to sleep a little. We were both exhausted. But it never was assumed that I was 100 % responsible.  Especially since never having a stretch of more than 2 hours for months on end is a recipe for insanity.  I almost didn't have another baby because it was so bad. Fortunately my daughter slept like a champ from day 1.

anyway OP I think your spouse is being selfish and rigid. Being a parent means sacrificing some things--like a daily workout--not only to be a good parent but to share the burden with your partner. If he refuses then I would ensure that he take the baby the whole day sat/sun (as you do 5 days a week) and you sleep, work out or do whatever you want. Essentially flip schedules on the weekends--he is in charge from 6 am to 6 pm and then again from bedtime to 6 am.  
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