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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DD can get engaged. She can get married even.  Ask them to sign a pre-nup valid till they are childless, which allows them to have an easy divorce and no spousal support incase the marriage does not work out. They each walk away with their own money.

Tell your kid to not have a kid till she is 32.  By that time, both the parties will have a firm idea how well suited they are and whether they should have kids together.   It is really as simple as that. 23 is a great age. Get engaged. Get married. Have prenup for childless years. Don't have kids for the next 9-10 years.

Once they  have kids - there should be no prenup. Money is joint. Marriage is forever.  They should have enough financial cushion for SAH parent, job loss, underemployment etc.

Congratulations. This is not a bad thing. [/quote]

Bad advice…have kids sooner!  Late 20s is perfect.[/quote]

Absolutely not.  Bad advice for all women, unless it is the religious nutjob submissive women..  Women get stuck in bad marriages because they have kids with terrible men.  The reproductive cost is very high for women.  Have children with a man who deserves to be the father of your children. Marry early, spend time with the man for a few years to have a good read on him.  Women should own their reproductive decisions. Get pregnant and have kids after you have saved money, understood what the man stands for, and understand that you have a real life partner in your husband.  Women owe their children to give them a good father and family life. [b]Mid-30s is perfect time to have the first kid, and then the 2nd kid in a couple years.  Stop after two kids, [/b]FFS!!

Don't marry a dud husband because you want a kid. [b]If need be, freeze your eggs and go the surrogate route. [/b] [/quote]

I completely disagree with this. Do you honestly think most people can afford to freeze their eggs and go the surrogacy route? And waiting to have your first kid until mid 30s? Sure, if you want to be an old grandma and not around for grandchildren. Late 20s is perfect to me so you can get in 2-3 kids before 35.[/quote]

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