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OP - Rather than trying to limit DD’s options on a partner, have you and DH in there is one spent enough time to get to know her boy friend to have an understanding of his goals in education as related to a career and the opportunities for employment.  Your financial concerns on his present and future debt are not unreasonable, but your approach is very unreasonable, too.   Your daughter must have a brain if she is making six figures so young, unless just with the family business.  Reasoned conversations with her, too, about possibly a pre-nup might be helpful and also how finances might be handled on carrying the debt in the future.  I would also caution that some grad students even in technical fields end up working with a professor who is not  effective in guiding graduate students and just lets them linger “for years” in a program.  But these are aspects that DD and her future husband should research — how many graf students does thr professor have at a time and what is the average time to complete the classes and thesis.  I was married three of the four years of my husband’s PhD in Engineering program, but heard the stories of those left lingering. —- which foreign grad students might just be quite fine with,  It would also be reasonable to see if your daughter might be able to protect some of her funds she brings into the marriage  vía an investment such as a home in her name only etc. or investment property in her name only, since I think joint assets acquired while married start at that point.

On the side of what can happen, my sister was a dental hygienist making more than some young dentists years ago who met a guy and maride him despite my parents clear warnings about him.  Well she put him through med school and the internship living ig a very nice lifestyle with one child.  In the end he ended up walking away, as he started his practice.  Later it was also at her having urged him to get a super disability policy that he was able to maintain his income level when he could due to an accident no longer do surgery.  So parents may have insights, but you have to consider how to share in an adult way and realize your advice may not be taken.[/quote]

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