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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I would discuss with him an open marriage and  if you still sleep with him use condoms. I don’t feel it’s feasible to divorce just because of sex, if he’s a great father, and your life is otherwise comfortable. I would be more concerned if he had a serious affair that’s a marriage killer. He seems to have sex dependency

What I find appalling with cheaters is then opening marriage for themselves and often keeping “clean” spouses on call for sex when they want to, and fully unaware.

You should be able to fulfill your sexual desires and feel made adoration as well, not to always think about him and his transgressions.

You have to learn to treat sex as basic bodily function like meals. Your husband has meals out at times, same applies to sex. [/quote]

Not everyone wants an open marriage. Not everyone wants to live a lie. Some people feel having an open marriage is the same as being divorced or at least separated. The main  issue with divorce and separation is that you can't live in the same house or comingle assets easily. That's why people stay. It is something to consider. But lets not try to make everyone into a cheater as a way to solve someone's cheating habits.[/quote]

Aren't open marriages typically just the last step before divorce?  I know a few who tried this and it prolonged the marriage for a time, which isn't a bad thing for some.  There is probably a subculture of people out there who make it work, but I think it has to start with a LOT of trust, not as a response to cheating and lying.  Esther Perel has a good body of work on this subject.  [/quote]

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