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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posts like OP’s always stir up such venom and sanctimony.  The suggestion that a cheating spouse can’t love their kids or be a good parent is ridiculous.  Another poster hit it right on the head: most cheaters don’t ever think they will get caught, are compartmentalizing and the parenting part of them is often doing just fine.  It’s only when they get caught that there’s a problem.

No one knows what’s going on in anyone else’s head, and no one is in any position to judge anyone else’s parenting simply because there’s infidelity in the marriage.

It’s interesting.  I follow the college admissions forum and I see a lot more damage being done to children there than the theoretical damage that can be done by a cheating spouse.  [/quote]

It isn't theoretical but very real damage. I'd love to know whether any of the posters who claim kids are not affected negatively by cheating have actually asked  children how they feel once they find out. Because most of them will find out. And it will affect them. [/quote]

Sigh.  It’s theoretical in the sense that there’s no harm done at all until the cheater is caught, and while you say the majority ARE caught you really don’t know that, nor do you know how often the cheated on spouse tells the kids about the cheating even in the event of divorce.  In short, you don’t know anything - you’re guessing and assuming.

Also, judging from the ridiculous number of posts on DCUM with posters trashing their parents in so many ways, and as I said before so much evidence of DCUM posters doing terrible jobs raising their own kids in so many non-cheating ways, continue to believe that many, many of you live in glass houses.  [/quote]

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