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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WFH is great but people taking the DH's side here aren't paying attention.

WFH is and should be a quality of life upgrade, but if you are married and have kids, that upgrade should benefit everyone in the family. Like I started WFH when I became a mom, and I loved it but so did my kid (who saw me way more) and my DH (who benefitted from my flexible schedule for childcare, the time I spent doing stuff around the house during breaks from work, and how much more chill I was as a person because I wasn't stressed about commuting or balancing motherhood and work so much). It was a win all around, so no one in my family has ever been like "ugh, please go to an office." Why would they?

OP's DH has decided the benefits of WFH accrue to him and him alone. WFH means he doesn't have to wear "hard pants" most of the day, can stay up drinking since he doesn't have to commute, and can sleep in. If he were single I would be fine with all of that, I don't care. But he's not single. He's not spending any of the time he used to spend commuting with his family. That's selfish, shouldn't they be a priority for him? Also, with the drinking and late nights and sleeping in, his WFH schedule is actually LESS conducive to family time than when he worked in an office. When do he and his wife connect? When does he talk to the kids about their days? Most people (men and women) I know who started WFH during Covid, this is what they value about it, as well as cost savings due to loss of commute and eating at home more, and health benefits from having more time to exercise.

WFH does not exist, and should not exist, so that you can drink until the middle of the night and then wake up late, and wear sweatpants all day without getting in trouble with your boss. If that's the argument for WFH, let's all go back to the office because that's dumb. I'm all for OP's DH getting to WFH, but he's doing it in an incredibly self-centered way.[/quote]
Then that's what OP should focus on.  (Although it's not clear that he's not spending more time with his family.  He's off work at 4:30, but he's home.  OP's complaint is that she doesn't actually want to spend time with him after work and that they are spending TOO MUCH time together.)  If the issue is that he needs to do more around the house or spend more time with the kids, then talk about that.  If the issue is his drinking, then talk about that.

And, frankly, it's not an argument against WFH that people don't use their free time in a way you approve of.  [/quote]

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