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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a sister like this who lives over 1000 miles away.  Eventually I confronted her about the competitiveness. She fake apologized and said she was super hurt that I felt that way.  Things have only gotten worse.  My other siblings try to smooth it over.  We still have a relationship but by no means a close one.

I have a lot of sympathy for you.[/quote]

Can you and/or OP detail how someone is competitive when they're 1,000 miles away? Especially with kids so young. Do you mean like moving into a nicer house, better cars, husband's (HHI) income, things like that? How are those expressed? Via passive aggressive facebook posts? 1,000 miles away is far enough to not really interact with people much.[/quote]
I have  BIL who is competitive, and yes, it's those things. Who has the most disposable income, who has the nicer house, whose kids are better behaved. It's just a lot of back handed comments, and bragging about expensive purchases. We rarely see them in person, because they live 500 miles away, so it's usually over the phone, and when we do see him he's a drama llama to the max. DH and his brother mutually decided that it would be better if our families don't spend time together. It was really hard for DH because he was really close to his brother growing up, and it's impacted his relationship with his father who doesn't want to look like he's chosen sides by spending more time with one family over the other. That's why I'd advise against formally cutting them off. It could strain DHs relationship with his parents. Just keep on deflecting invites that don't work for you.[/quote]

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