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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m one of two and now caring for aging parents and I so so grateful for my brother who is my partner in this endeavor. I would be drowning without both his help with tasks but also without his emotional support. Having someone who shares your history and same level of love for your parents is such a comfort. We were not close growing up and now live far apart but the core has always been there and we are a fantastic team in this. As I see our social safety nets fraying coupled with a shortage of actual people to provide care, I am really glad I didn’t stop at one. I have no idea what people who don’t have someone younger to help them do? Even with money it is a complicated, minefield IF you can find someone to help or a place to go. There is no guarantee that your kids will help you or each other but if you don’t have them then you are gonna be on your own if you are lucky/unlucky enough to live a long time. [/quote]

This argument pulls at all the heartstrings: you might be alone! Your kid might FEEL alone!

You may live a long life and die of a degenerative disease. Or you may be hit by a bus in middle age. Or die swiftly of some other ailment at whatever age. [b]Don’t decide whether you are going to do 18+ years of parenting 2, 3, + on the hypothetical that in 50 years you’ll die a specific kind of death and your children will be a good team when you pass.[/b] There are far too many things that could happen in between—to you, to your kids, etc— for that to be a reasonable, rational way to make this decision.

But it sure sounds convincing when people say it![/quote]

Standing and clapping for the bolded.  Thank you, PP.  Another hypothetical to ignore: what your Thanksgiving holidays will be like when your kids are adults.  Have the number of kids you think you can capably parent - the verb - not the number that will satisfy some distant future that may never come to pass.  [/quote]

My in-laws have four kids and spend Christmas alone half of the time (one sub works, one lives overseas, two travel every other year to other side of the family). Four kids and solo holidays. Nothing is a guarantee.[/quote]

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