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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. He and my son are saying there was no "strangling" or pressure on the neck, does this matter? I looked immediately afterwards and saw no marks.

In my mind there are 1k ways to restrain a child or leave the situation without putting hands on the neck. Even moving a child to the bed in a somewhat rough manner by picking them up around the waist or shoulders....[/quote]

Your son started swinging at his father. Your son has an anger management problem. Your husband curses at your son. Your husband has an anger management problem. They both need courses for this. Anger management classes. [/quote]

Whether there were marks or not is irrelevant. An adult does not respond this way even to an aggressive child. Your husband is abusive to his kid, both verbally and physically. It will escalate and you are next. You need to get out and as quickly as you can. [/quote]

As someone whose husband escalated into abusive behavior, it’s easy to say “get out” but the reality is that it is very hard to keep your kids away from an abuser.  DH has been involuntarily hospitalized for being a threat to me, we have a protective order, multiple CPS calls and a finding of “indicated abuse”, visitation is limited and supervised, and my kid still came home with fresh bruises a few weeks ago.

There are no easy solutions.  [/quote]

I’m a different poster than you quoted but I am one who said get out.

You can only fight in the courts, get limited/supervised visitation etc. if you and your children are still alive. I don’t think it’s easy or uncomplicated just that it is genuinely the only way to protect the OP and her children from ongoing and escalating abuse. I’m so sorry for what you went through and I’m so sorry for your kids but you are an incredible and powerful mother for getting them out even if the struggle is ongoing. [/quote]

My point is that I don’t feel like we are safer now, despite all the intervention than when we lived together.  [/quote]

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