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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's traumatized you and then somehow made you feel bad about it, and now she's controlling the communication too. If I were you, I wouldn't feel like I owed her anything. But a 30 minute once a week call is plenty. I wouldn't hesitate to tidy up my room (how would she even know?) or fold laundry while talking to her. At the 30 minute mark say "I love you mom, gotta go!" And then hang up before she can scream and cry. No extra warnings. Don't give her the power. She has the power and she doesn't deserve the power. She was not a good mom, you are being a good daughter despite that, and that is good enough. [/quote] This is what my dh, who has a similar dynamic with his mom, does. She has the nerve to act offended when he calls while driving. His work involves a lot of driving, sometimes for an hour. That crazy b is lucky he even talks to her.[/quote]
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