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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm happily married and my in-laws don't see the kids every holiday.  I have parents too.  Their expectations are way out of wack[/quote]

Yea and who TF makes all the good for Thanksgiving dinner.

I’ve hosted but I’ve never made a turkey. I make apps and 1 dish, everybody needs to contribute [/quote]

People with entitled ILs. I’ve hosted mine for thanksgiving for 15 out of 17 years. (Not OP.) and I recognize I have as much of a husband problem as I do an IL problem, though at least he helps me cook, but he enables his parents and extended family to come, sit, eat, drink, and everything else without them doing so much as washing a dish, let alone bringing anything. Not even a bottle of wine as host gift. I also feel the OP’s pain in having a spouse who cannot say no, disappoint his parents, or communicate properly.

And if I ever got divorced and my ILs had the audacity to assume I’d still be hosting a happy blended family and serving them they’d finally get the piece of my mind I’ve restrained myself from giving to them for the last 20 years. The best part would be never having to host them again!![/quote]

OP: his parents never and siblings never brought anything but their healthy appetites. Restaurant's closed :lol: [/quote]

OP get real for a second.  This isn’t about what a great hostess you are.  I’m sure your spread is lovely, but what’s driving this is in laws’ fears about access to the kids especially around holidays, probably also because your ex is downplaying what this separation really is (a divorce in progress).  They aren’t the enemy here - they love your kids and are transitioning in this new phase just like you are.  Be honest with them about what is going on and let them know they will have access to the kids when your husband has them for holidays, and move on with grace.[/quote]

You don't know that. You speculating based on your experiences.[/quote]

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