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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is everybody thinking the guy is a jerk? He seems sane… sounds like OP wants to sit on her butt, barely work, have this man take care of her, their kid, her kids, and be put on the house? Looks like OP has nothing in her name, no retirement and refused to work at the age of 50! Sounds like he put a ring on it and then realized her true colors… [/quote]

They aren’t married. She has stayed home taking care of their joint child and has zero financial protection in return, since she would get nothing in a divorce or will. That’s a huge problem and yes, he is a jerk for putting her in this position. [/quote]
agree, but she's also dumb for putting herself in this situation, for 7 flipping years.

If you are going to be a sahm, or only work PT, and you have a child, you had better have some form of financial security. If your DH is not providing that, then you need to get yourself a FT job that pays decently.

-signed a DW [/quote]

DP, not the one you're responding to, but: This post is so typical of this thread. Judge the OP but don't offer any concrete advice other than "get a job." Everyone these days thinks it's magically easy to walk into a job. A low-paying, by-the-hour service sector job? Sure.  A career position paying a wage that could help get the mortgage that could help someone start really saving substantially? At OP's age? Not so easy. [/quote]
The vast majority of women on here worked while taking care of kids.

OP is a PT sahm. Her one kid is in school FT. I presume they don't home school.  OP could go back to school, get a certificate or something. Anything to get a decent paying job. She doesn't have to pay for a mortgage, childcare, student loan, etc.. I doubt she is paying for any bills. Whatever she earns, she can save and build a little nest egg for herself.

I went to a low rated commuter college. I met women there who had kids. Some were in their 30s, 40s.  It's never too late to get a degree.

That's the advice she should be taking. Clearly, her DH isn't going to leave her much, if anything, so she needs to grow up and take some responsibility for herself.  Sounds to me like she was relying on her 7-yr-fiancee to take care of her. That's not a great plan.  Sure her DH sounds like a douche, so what's her plan? Just complain about it until he gives?  How's that worked out for her for 7 flipping years.

She should stay with him to get free housing and food, while she gets a degree/cert and a decent paying job. Then build her safety net.  Most of her earnings should be put away for retirement and a safety net. That's what I would do.

I'm 52. I worked and saved, then had kids.  My DH earns a decent amount, but I wasn't going to rely on him long term for my financial security. That's a dumb plan for any woman these days.  It's not like we live in the 1950s where a woman couldn't get a good paying job.  You never want to be in a position where you have to rely on someone else for your security.[/quote]

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