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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to me.[/quote]

Well I’m in a marriage where I haven’t had a child yet due to lack of interest and cooperation from my husband. Now I’m too terrified to leave as bow can I divorce, fall in love and have a baby with rapidly declining fertility?[/quote]

How old are you? Maybe you can freeze eggs (although there is no guarantee that would work either) or just run now if you are still young.

My AH husband and family stole my fertility - arranged marriage in early 20s. Husband is asexual, couldn't divorce due to cultural beliefs and parental pressure even though we are not compatible in anything. Tried IVFs in early 30's but found out my egg supply diminished early and my only option was egg donor. So I lost the chance to have my own biological kid because I stayed in a shitty sexless marriage. I've become a very bitter person since I was raised to stay and suffocate and that family honor was important. Now I am always depressed. Still married to a guy I hate.

I hope hearing this would help you.

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Sorry this happened to you… 
I wanted to ask why you waited until your 30s to try IVF
-DP
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My husband kept giving false promises of going to counseling and I believed him (I was naive) and wanted to have kids the natural way. Eventually when that did not work out my parents convinced me to stay and go the IVF route to prevent me from bringing a bad rep to the family.

I should have gotten out in my 20s but here I am, a shell of my past self, an angry bitter old woman.[/quote]

How old are you ? I am 44 and have one HS aged child. My exH dragged a second baby, and we divorced. I just started a journey for my second child. The issue us that after 42 90% of eggs have genetic mutations (which is why even if pregnancy happens most women miscarry). I still will spend around $40k on trying to get at least one viable embryo and transfer it to a surrogate mother. I will pay up to $200k for all treatments and the US surrogate. But to me it’s well worth it, to devote a small percentage of my  $3.5mm net worth to have a blood relative as I age. I really want my genes in my baby as I have great family history with high achievers. But the family is slowly dying off with very few babies born in each generation.

I just don’t buy stories from women of huge wealth like Anniston they have all resources available to reach their goals.

You still have a chance for a fully donor baby from Mexico if that helps. I might adopt if my plan doesn’t work out. [/quote]

I hope you do get your viable embryo, but I hate to break it that chances are pretty slim given your age. Even if the embryo attaches, more chances of a child with health issues, disabilities.

Ask me how I know.

Money does not bring back fertility.[/quote]

You are not breaking anything to me. The embryos will get tested before transfer so very serious disabilities are ruled out. My first child is mildly autistic so I am an experienced mom already. Thanks for your good wishes and so caring for my money though [/quote]

I don't care what you do with your money. Please do update if you are able to have your child. It will give other women hope.

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There are many women who have kids with donor eggs in their 40s, no need for a update from me for them to try. I can afford wasting money on a 10% chance just like many people lose money on stocks. I would rather take different bets. [/quote]

To add, if I had a great partner whom I loved, I wouldn’t have any issues with the baby being only his biological. But as I am single adoption is better option for me vs fully donor child via surrogate [/quote]

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