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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had my 3rd at 41 - wanted 4 but was medically prohibited due to complications that were unrelated to age. I still feel like i am missing that 4th child - grew up with a big family, all my friends had big families.   I think alot depends on when you had your first kids.  I had mine late so this 40s pregnancy happened when we were still in the little kids stage and we live in a neighborhood where there are lot of other parents who put career first in their 20s and early 30s and then had kids.  I also don't feel like I want an empty nest sooner.  Love the people my kids are and am happy to spend as much time with them as I can. Everyone is different and I'm not sure why so many posters are judging someone feeling like their family isn't complete[/quote]

We are just pointing out some of the many drawbacks to having kids at an advanced age, that many people seem willing to ignore or overlook. If you die at the age my mom did, your 3rd child will be 20.[/quote]

While I do worry about dying early the truth is no one knows when they will die.

If I die in my 90s like my grandparents and great aunt my kid will be between mid forties to early fifties. my parents are in their eighties still alive but my mother now has cognitive impairment at 84 (grandparents had no cognitive issues) so she might have to deal with that in her mid thirties of course there is no guarantee I will live as long as all my relatives (even though I also carry the gene associated with longevity) but TBH the lifespan of my family did factor into my decision. If all my relatives were dropping off in their late 60s early 70s it would have given me greater pause.  Of course I am squarely in the sandwich position with a toddler and ailing parents.  So you never know.  Gives me grater motivation to take care of my health so I can be there for her as long as I can.   Life is uncertain no matter what age. [/quote]

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