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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a woman in my 50s and fully admit that I was probably more intellectually stimulating in my 20s/30s because I had time to read more, and wasn't wasting time on social media[/quote]

Hahaha! I’m sorry, no. I spend a lot of time with highly intelligent early to mid 20s, and they are babies. You might *feel* that way, but 20-26 olds don’t even have a fully formed brain. Old guys say this because they are thinking with their d***s.[/quote]

Gosh, I am a woman and I really think we need to stop with this nonsense. Older women are no more intellectually interesting or deep or valuable than younger women. I also feel like I was just as interesting when I was 23 as at 43. And my body was certainly better than, but I don’t care. Women should see their inherent value as not tied to either their age or how “intellectually stimulating“ they are. People have strong and meaningful relationships throughout their lives, and for all different reasons. I’m not at all threatened by older men going out with younger women. There is a lot of love to go around in the world, and people can find the relationship for them at any age. [/quote]

the intellectual stimulation part is a red herring. The issue is self-worth and boundaries. [b]Older women know how to set boundaries and call men out on their BS. Younger women have a much much harder time with that not. [/b] [/quote]

Translation: Older women are unpleasant and argumentative, younger women far less so.

Fact check: True.[/quote]

Yes, it is unpleasant to be called out when you are a piece of shit, so I imagine you would be really into younger women. [/quote]

You’re proving my point for me, thanks! 😂😂😂[/quote]

You're free to think that, but I'm actually very pleasant as a general matter. I make people laugh, I like learning from others, and I tend come across as sweet and feminine because of my size and mannerisms. And over the years I have become less argumentative. I have learned that things are more complicated than they seem and I'm much less judgmental and more comfortable with nuance than I used to be.

But I never was pleasant and fun around sexists, homophobes, racists, etc. I wills say I have gotten better about spotting that kind of thing, and I've learned to call it out in ways that take them down a few notches rather than trying to convince them that they are wrong. So I have become more pleasant and less argumentative as a whole, but highly unpleasant pleasant to jerks. And guess who loves this about me? Men (and women) who aren't jerks themselves because they aren't my target.[/quote]

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