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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NJ/NY wedding - my understanding is that registry gifts are for engagement parties and showers. People bring $$$ to the wedding.

I grew up in the Midwest OP and got married in my hometown- so I would have 100% understood your generous gift to be the wedding gift. Where I am from a shower gift is is something under $50 or even under $25 like a mixing bowl or a set of oven mitts.

I married into an Italian family from NJ and we hardly got anything we registered for and got mostly cash and checks. [/quote]

Another Midwesterner here. Gifts are for the shower and cash is for the wedding in my Eastern Euro community.[/quote]

Middle aged Hoosier here.  I don't recall ever attending a wedding shower, only bridal showers where gifts were of a personal nature for the bride.  [b]What would you give at a wedding shower that you wouldn't give for the wedding?[/b]  Giving cash would be considered incredibly rude.[/quote]

The ancient etiquette that I was raised with distinguished shower gift (practical) from wedding presents (pretty). It wasn't a matter of expense; a Vitamix is a shower present, whereas a teaspoon in someone's silver pattern is a wedding present. [/quote]

Middle aged Hoosier here.  Thanks for the explanation.  Interesting how varied traditions are. [/quote]

Yes -- and yet somehow everyone is sure that their tradition is right and that whatever they grew up with is the only way people in their region do things. (I was raised in the northeast by a midwestern mom and southern father.)[/quote]

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