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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your son should see a therapist for coping skills.  Look at DBT.
Have your son talk directly to the judge.  See if he can do it in private.[/quote]

My kid is in therapy.  Choosing to take a break from someone who has traumatized you, and using healthy things like physical exercise to manage stress are coping skills.

They did talk to the judge last time.  In MD, 16 is the age when the judge needs to take their wishes into account though. [/quote]

Traumatized.  How was that?   Sounds like the judge thought visits were best.  [b]He can exercise on your time and not the few hours with dad[/b], aunt and cousins.  [/quote]
It seems he is going on these runs to get away from his dad so doing it on his moms time would undermine the reason for doing it.[/quote]

He runs pretty seriously, but the point in leaving would be to get away from and make a statement to his dad.  Otherwise he’d go before or after.

He didn’t end up leaving, he ended up separating himself but not leaving the house.  
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He sounds like a spoiled brat.  Call an emergency court hearing and stop visits.  Or, offer no visits for no child support.  [/quote]

Dad sounds like someone who hasn't built a relationship with his son and is paying the price for it. As soon as son is 18, bye bye, visits to Dad! [/quote]

Its pretty hard to have a relationship when the other parent is sabotaging you.  At 18, say goodbye to child support and helping to pay for college.  OP should be fine with no child support if Dad is that bad and it gets Dad out of their lives.  Seems pretty simple to me.  [/quote]

It sounds like the split is recent so the father should have already had a solid relationship with his son.

They are separated.  Now managing the relationship with his son is the father's job.  He should not rely on the mother to manage it in any way. If the son is upset with the father, it's up to the father to sort it out.  He should not rely on his ex wife to clean up his mess.  His son, his relationship, his job.[/quote]

It’s impossible with a mother like this.  Dad cannot clean up her mess. [/quote]

Dad forces his way into my home, and screams at me in front of the kid, and the mess he made of his relationship with the kids is MY mess?  How do you figure that?  I'm not the one who dragged the kids into it.[/quote]

DP. I am not blaming you for what his father did. It sounds really traumatic.

If your son wants this to be productive, especially if he wants visitation readdressed, then he can contact his father and express what he is feeling about the incident. Document that conversation. Bring it up with the judge. Just acting out is not going to make the point he wants to make, not really. But it can be made by being thoughtful and clear about what he wants and feels, and following up on that.

I would judge you for not encouraging him to handle this with care and thoughtfulness about what he wants, IF you failed to do that. You are his mother. Lead him.[/quote]

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