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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends. I got alimony for life. I was married for 24 years. I was a SAHM. My ex is a doctor with a high salary. [/quote]

Which state and percentage of his salary were you awarded, age at the time of divorce? [/quote]

Age, 48. I get $120,00 a year tax free for the first 8 years. My alimony goes down every year till I reach the age of 65. After that I get $36,000 a year tax free.

He makes $650,000 a year.[/quote]

My a..hole exH was "fired" just as I filed for divorce. Then went back to the same company as a "consultant", right after signing the settlement agreement.

How do you plan for your retirement? It's a nice alimony but without assets or savings after 65 y.o. it will be tight..[/quote]

You need to work. There’s no reason an able bodied 48 year old can’t get a job.[/quote]

I work and happy without his alimony. But I was just lucky to secure a job after 10 years SAHM. This doesn't change the fact that he's a a-hole. Who "fires" himself and gets severance at 54, just so he didn't have to pay alimony and higher CS? He basically ripped off his own child.

His income 1st year after divorce was settled is $2mm/year. I am taking him back to court for a different child support in the fall. If I make 150K and he makes $2mm, there is something wrong with him paying only $1300/month in CS![/quote]

Most judges would not have called him out on the timing of his "firing."  Also, most lawyers would have hired a professional to determine his earning potential.  I'd go back to court on this one.[/quote]

Meant: Most judges would have called him out[/quote]

My salary is higher than what his alimony would have been, and I am building my resume. Going to court back than trying to call him out meant missing another 2 years of my life, work history and health, in addition to $200K in legal fees. He also could had forced sale of marital assets causing me even higher financial harm vs me just loosing his alimony. So I settled and got marital assets I wanted intact.

I know that alimony cannot be changed after I signed MSA, but I am taking him back to court for the child support. He's incredibly cheap with our son, and refuses to pay his college expenses. [/quote]
What state did you divorce in?[/quote]
DC[/quote]
Oh I thought DC covers college? Or is it just that CS continues through 21?[/quote]

No DC doesn't cover college, only CS through 21. But as everyone goes to college and CS is based on the child's needs, the college becomes a need. That's what I am going to argue when I take my ex back to court this fall. Son is finishing HS next year[/quote]

You don't need to go to college. Everyone does not go to college. No child is entitled to go to college, not even the children of DCUM parents.[/quote]

No they don't but at the same time why are we encouraging our offspring to be in lower paid positions than we are in? It doesn't make sense and even if you are in a trade there are trade costs and low pay in those fields to start. And for instance, we had done 3 years of prepaid tuition for each of our kids, so obviously the plan was for the kids to go to college in Virginia, so I think child support should have been covered for those years.[/quote]

You want your kids to go to college and you encourage it but this is not a [i]need [/i]in the same sense as providing food/clothing/shelter, which is the intent of child support, and therefore college should not be covered in child support. You might as well argue that piano lessons and travel soccer should be automatically covered in child support.[/quote]

No dum dum. Piano lessons are not part of child support. Basic necessities are and that’s all that child support covers. I’m saying that kids should be supported with basic necessities till 21 since at a minimum most kids need at least community college to get a job. It is really upsetting that men just want their kids to have no skills but most jobs these days will not hire you without an associates and so kids should be covered in living expenses till then[/quote]

Yes, dum dum, basic necessities are part of CS and that’s all that CS covers. That was exactly my point. College tuition is NOT a basic necessity however much you want it to be.

Yes of course I want my kids to have skills, dum dum, but they are not entitled to go to college and no parent is or should be obligated to pay for it.[/quote]

Child support DOES NOT cover private school or college. It covers basic necessities. I’ve told you this now about five times. It should be continued till a kid has a job that can cover these. [/quote]

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