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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Dh and I paid for our own wedding because we make more $$ than my parents did.

We told our daughter that we would give her  x amount (a substantial five figure sum) for a wedding. She could have a small wedding and use the money for a down payment on a house (or whatever) or use it for a big wedding. She chose to spend it on the wedding, which was lovely, but she confided just a few years later that she regretted not using the money toward their house. [/quote]

This is fine, but it’s also fine to insist on a wedding if you’re paying for it. It doesn’t have to be fungible, and they can always kindly decline. My parents paid for our wedding because they wanted to throw a big bash. They had a great time, so did we, everybody wins. [/quote]

But ultimately if the couple does not want the big bash, then the parents shouldn't hold it over them.  Parents can offer to pay and say they'd like the big bash, but should still provide the same assistance without strings attached for whatever the couple wants.  I suspect many people would ultimately be happier with an extra $20K (or whatever the amount is) towards a home rather than a big party.  [/quote]

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