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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. For a little background, my father is constantly trying to make plans on behalf of other people. When I was pregnant he announced that he expected to spend at least one weekend per month visiting without asking me if that would work. He buys tickets to visit and I have to dodge his calls so he doesn’t actually just show up. No amount of time spent together is enough.

I don’t know what the diagnosis is, but it doesn’t seem normal. [/quote]

I'm going to say this gently and I hope you take it the right way, but your dad doesn't sound like the one who needs a diagnosis and help.  Your original OP and your responses here give a strong indication that you need to work on your flexibility and ability to be spontaneous.  From what you've already posted you don't have other plans, so what is the big deal here?  Just that your dad didn't consult you?  The activity is clearly engaging and exciting to your child, you haven't raised any safety concerns for your child or your dad, the activity doesn't interfere with any of your own plans, it is hard to see the downside.  Except, oh yeah, the downside is that your feathers are ruffled so now your ruffling everyone else's.  You should do some work on your rigidity.  Your child is modeling himself after you.  Wouldn't it be nice if he were able to be flexible and spontaneous instead of inflexible and rigid?[/quote]

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