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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women need to stay away from men who treat them like shit. Don’t date them, don’t have sex with them, don’t live with them, don’t marry them. Don’t rant at them, don’t negotiate with them, and don’t explain. As soon as it happens, turn around and walk away. It will benefit you immensely. But if we all do it, it will actually change the world. [/quote]

Do you have any experience with abuse? It’s not that simple. The vast majority of abusers start off as charming and caring. Obviously if a man flips out over your outfit on a first date, you’ll leave and never speak with him again. But it’s not on the first date, and it’s not over something big. They hook you in with their charm, then they start small, and slowly turn the heat up over time. They convince you that reality is completely different, that you are the problem. And by the time you realize what is going on, there’s marriage, kids, people pressuring you to stay, marriage counselors that convince you it’s equally your fault for triggering him, you’re stressed over what a divorce will do to your kids and what will happen the time they are alone with dad.

It’s not as easy as you think. Turn around and walk away? My xH would have physically blocked me from leaving. Then what, call the cops? He was a cop and his buddies wouldn’t do sh!t. I know other women and if they tried to walk away, they would be physically beaten.

I suggest you read Lundy Bancroft, he’s done extensive work on abuse. The woman alone cannot usually stop it, there needs to be consequences from multiple people, most importantly from other men. [/quote]

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